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No. You are legally separated once you begin living separate and apart and at least one spouse intends to remain that way. However, we do recommend obtaining an affidavit from your attorney, which is generally notarized. This document will verify and solidify your date of separation.
No. Living separate and apart means you must be living in separate residences.
No. As a general rule, if you and your spouse had a few instances of romantic relations after the date of separation will not reset the clock. However, if you move back in with your spouse, this very well may reset the statutory one year separation period.
You have to file a Complaint (lawsuit) asking for an absolute divorce. You cannot file a divorce complaint until after you and your spouse have been separated for a year and one day.
Next, you have to serve your spouse with the Complaint. Service is usually accomplished by certified mail or Sheriff. Then you will need a hearing in front of a judge. The judge has to enter a Judgment declaring you divorced.
You are not divorced until the judge signs a Judgment and the clerk file stamps it.
Aside from the divorce from Bed and Board, which is more like Legal Separation, there are only two grounds for an absolute divorce:
The length of the process varies based on how long it takes to get service of your spouse and how soon the clerk schedules the divorce hearing. Generally, it should take approximately 60 days after the Complaint is filed.
In an uncontested divorce, both parties agree to the divorce and the situation is generally amicable. In an uncontested divorce in Mecklenburg County, the divorce is generally granted on papers and no court appearance is required. In other words, you and your spouse will NOT have to appear in court.
On the other hand, in a contested divorce, the parties generally cannot agree on most important aspects of the divorce making everything a dispute.
There are many important effects of a divorce and as such you need advice of competent divorce lawyer.
An annulment is a court order declaring that the marriage never existed due to some defect. Marriages can be declared invalidated only in very limited circumstances, as indicated at Section 3 of Chapter 51 of the North Carolina General Statutes.
You may include a request to change your name in your divorce complaint. The name change can be included in the divorce judgment. You cannot change your name to any name in this process.
You may resume your maiden name. You may also resume a former married name under certain circumstances.
Mediation is when a neutral third party helps facilitate an agreement between the parties. The mediator does not make decisions. The parties make the decisions, but the mediator helps them along. You can do private mediation before or after a Complaint has been filed. You can address custody, child support, alimony, and property issues in mediation.
Mediation is generally less expensive and not as time-consuming as court. The parties control the outcome. The entire process can be settled in one day, and you can leave a private mediation with a binding settlement document.
The process is very civil and dignified. It can set the tone for how the parties deal with each other from that point forward. If the parties are able to resolve the issues incident to their separation at mediation, typically they work together and treat each other better in subsequent dealings with children or otherwise. You do not necessarily need a lawyer for mediation, but we recommend it. A non-lawyer mediator will not know the law. Without an attorney, you could lose or waive rights you did not know you had.
Custody may be agreed upon by the parties. If it is, the parties may set out the terms of their custody agreement in a Separation Agreement or Parenting Agreement, which are not usually filed with the court, or in a Consent Order that is filed with the court.
If the parents are unable to agree on their own, they can try mediation or arbitration. If they do not want to try arbitration, they can go to court to let a judge decide, but in most districts, including Mecklenburg County, they will be required to attend mediation through the court system before they can be heard by a judge.
You may resolve these issues by agreement with your spouse, in which case we'll help you execute a Separation Agreement. In order to be valid and binding, a Separation Agreement needs to follow certain formalities. You should consult with our attorneys for assistance in negotiating and drafting the Agreement. If you and your spouse are not able to agree, you can try mediation or arbitration as alternatives to court.
If those options do not work for you, you will have to file a Complaint (lawsuit) seeking relief in court. Regardless of which approach you choose, you should consult with our attorneys first.
In order for a court to grant custody, the court must find that the custodian is a fit and proper person to have custody and that custody with that person is in the best interests of the children. There is not a presumption favoring mothers over fathers. Judges have wide discretion in deciding what's in the best interest of your children. Generally, mothers and fathers have equal rights to the custody of their children. There is a presumption, however, favoring natural parents over third parties, such as grandparents, aunts, and neighbors. Natural parents have constitutionally protected rights to parent their own children.
However, natural parents can lose those protected rights if they act inconsistently with their constitutional right to parent their child.
No. Custody and visitation arrangements are always subject change when circumstances affecting the child's best interests change substantially.
Sole custody means that one person has sole decision-making power over a child and typically has primary physical custody of that child.
If one parent has custody, the other has the right to have visitation with his or her child. There are no general rules about when and how much visitation the noncustodial parent should get. That depends on various factors including the ages of the children, the children's schedules, how far apart the parents live, and the work schedules of the parents.
When determining a visitation schedule for the noncustodial parent, the parties (or the court) should consider weekdays, weekends, holidays, and summers.
As with custody, the parties may agree on visitation in an Agreement. If they cannot agree, they can try mediation or arbitration. If they do not wish to try mediation or arbitration, they can go to court and let a judge decide.
Joint custody means shared decision-making power over a child, which can by Physical or Legal.
Physical custody is the power to care for child on day-to-day basis with basic physical necessities and determine where the child actually residers. When sole physical custody (sometimes referred to as "primary custody") is awarded to one custodial parent, the other, non-custodial, parent is typically given visitation rights. Whereas Legal Custody refers to decision making power over child's health care, education, religion, etc. When parents have joint legal custody they share in major decisions about a child.
No. The court may consider the wishes of older children, but the court will not let the children decide custody or visitation issues.
One of the parties begins the process by filing a Complaint (lawsuit) for custody or visitation. The parties generally must attend mandatory court mediation before a trial will be scheduled.
In some jurisdictions like Mecklenburg County for example, the parties must also attend parental education classes, which can now be attended online. In extreme cases, the court may appoint a Guardian ad Litem to represent the children or a mental health professional to perform a psychological evaluation of the parties and/or the children.
At a trial, the court will hear evidence and will decide what custody and visitation arrangement is in the best interests of the children.
If the parties' combined income is less than $ 300.000 per year, child support is determined based on the North Carolina Child Support Guidelines.
There are generally four numbers that are needed to calculate child support:
You can be held in contempt or prosecuted for failure to pay child support. You can be put in jail. Your driver's license and other licenses can be suspended. Your tax refunds can be intercepted. The courts have a host of options to enforce child support orders.
Child support generally terminates when a child turns 18 or graduates from high school, whichever occurs later.
If the child turns 18 before graduation, child support continues until graduation. If the child graduates before turning 18, child support continues until the child turns 18.
Child support may terminate earlier or extend later but only in certain rare circumstances.
Yes. Either parent may seek a change (increase or decrease) in child support at any time if a substantial change in circumstances has occurred after the order was entered by the court.
A substantial change in circumstances is presumed by the court if the request to change the support order is made three or more years after the entry of the order and there is a 15% difference between the amount of support being paid and the amount of support that would be required with new calculations under the Guidelines.
In North Carolina an individual may adopt even if not a citizen of the United States or not here legally, if such adoption would be in the best interest of the child and sufficient information exists to complete an approved pre-placement assessment with the Department of Health and Human Services.
However, the services of an immigration attorney may also be needed to deal with federal immigration and naturalization issues arising from the state adoption.